Letting Go of the Need to Prove Your Value | Woo Woo Wednesday Podcast
Struggling with self-worth or feeling like you always have to give more to be loved? Here’s how to let go of the need to prove your value and start trusting that who you are is already enough.
The other night, I was walking with my husband, talking about our son. He’s in middle school now, starting to form his group of friends, texting, hanging out, doing all the things.
I said: “Well, he’s the smart kid, he likes to help everyone…” and started listing reasons maybe that’s why his friends liked him.
My husband stopped me and said:
“Or maybe they just like him for him.”
That moment hit me like a ton of bricks.
Because consciously, I know my son is amazing. He doesn’t have to do anything to be loved. But subconsciously? I realized I’d been projecting my own lifelong belief: that love is conditional. That you have to give, prove, or perform in order to be valued.
Why Conditional Love Becomes a Trap
Growing up, I carried the energy of being “the savior.” I was the distraction from pain in my family after my uncle died, and I absorbed the unspoken message that my value came from what I could provide.
That belief bled into everything: relationships, business, parenting.
And here’s the truth:
When you give from the mind—always needing an outcome, recognition, or validation—it’s never enough. It leaves you drained and disconnected.
But when you give from the heart—because it’s who you are, with no strings attached—you discover that your presence, your energy, your very being is more than enough.
How to Know If You’re Stuck in Proving Mode
Here are a few signs you might still be operating from the belief that you have to prove your value:
You feel pressure to always offer more, give more, or do more in order to feel “worthy.”
You measure your impact based on outside recognition, likes, or achievements.
Sharing your truth feels unsafe unless it’s wrapped in “value” for others.
You struggle to believe people love you simply for who you are—not what you do.
Sound familiar? You’re not alone.
Rewriting the Belief: You Are Enough
One of the most powerful reminders I’ve received (again and again from my guides) is this:
“You are doing everything right. Can that be enough?”
It’s not your job to control outcomes. It’s not your job to prove your worth.
Your only job is to follow your truth, share yourself with the world, and let your impact land where it’s meant to land.
When you drop the proving, you create space for the right people to find you, love you, and be transformed by you—not because you gave them something, but because of who you are.
Your Reflection This Week
Can being who you are be enough?
Can you rewrite the belief that says you always have to do more to be worthy?
Can you start trusting that your presence itself carries impact?
Because underneath all those old stories, you are already making a difference. Not for what you do. But for who you are.
Listen to the Full podcast Episode
This week on Woo Woo Wednesday, I dive deeper into how this belief has shaped my life, what it cost me, and how I’m finally letting it go.
